The Beginning
Throughout my life I have always been able to connect with the spirit world. As a traditional medium, I help my clients heal their grief and find peace by communicating messages from the spirits of their loved ones. I have felt the love and the peace from beyond which has given me a great comfort with death.
Many years ago, I received a call from a client asking me to meet her at the nursing home where her mother had been lingering for weeks. Her mother was no longer conscious, but she was not able to cross over. I was hesitant because I had never gone to the bedside of a dying person before. Normally I communicate with spirits who have already crossed over. My client heard the hesitation in my voice and begged me. She was sure that I could help her mother, Louise.
When I arrived at the nursing home and walked into Louise’s room, her eyes opened and she sat up in bed, looked over to me and said, “Finally you have arrived.” I had never met Louise, yet she seemed to know me. I walked over to her bedside and held her hand. She took a deep sigh and closed her eyes. I assured her that it was okay to leave her sick, tired body. As I looked around her, I could see into the world beyond, and within that vision I could see souls rejoicing as they awaited her arrival.
I told my client about the wonders that awaited her mother. I then taught her a meditation that would relax her mother and enable her to gently leave her body. As my client started to recite the meditation, the spirit of a young man wearing glasses and a Fedora appeared at the side of the bed. My client confirmed that this was her dad. He had died young in a car accident, and her mother never remarried. He was the love of her life, and she strongly believed that one day they would be together again.
As I left the room, I knew Louise was on her way home. In my head I knew that death is supposed to be a sad experience, but I could not shake an overwhelming feeling of joy for Louise. I thought deeply of how incredible it would be if everyone could experience this euphoric feeling at the bedside of their loved one, if they could remove themselves from their sadness just long enough to experience the celebration of the transition.
That day, Louise left me with a gift. A gift of a deeper understanding of death. My life path as a medium opened, and Spiritual Dying was created.
What is Spiritual Dying?
Spiritual dying is the process of letting go of the physical world without sadness, fear, regret and anger. It entails knowing that we have fulfilled our soul’s purpose and have learned our karmic lessons. From the point of view of daily life, this kind of acceptance may seem difficult to imagine, but when death is close and when we are guided, the understanding of life’s lessons becomes clearer. When this understanding occurs, we are ready to let go of any distress, and our soul is free to evolve to the next level.
Spiritual dying is a natural part of the dying process. In life we forget that each day is lived in order to reach the day when we can return home. Our mind fights to stay in this life, yet our soul wants to move into the light. When one is actively dying, there are times when the struggle toward death appears to those watching as a difficult and painful process. But because death is more than a physical process, most of the time the person dying is focused on the spirit world—even if there is an appearance of struggle.
As the dying person drifts into a less conscious state, the spirit world becomes vivid. The soul now plays a major part in the death process, and the dying becomes disconnected from the physical death. The soul focuses on its re-birth into spirit, moving in and out of earth-bound reality and allowing the dying person to view other realms, often holding full conversations with their loved ones who are waiting on the other side to welcome them. Sometimes people speak of these visions or suddenly stare at a point in the room or turn towards the window with an expression of amazement, joy or wonder. They become aware of an amazing feeling of love pulling them home, reuniting them with the spirit world, a reunion of love.
I offer two different types of sessions to aid the transition to the spiritual world.
Guidance for the Terminal
This session is appropriate for a person who has learned that he or she is terminally ill. My guidance here is to communicate with the spirit world to help this person understand that he or she will be met by loved ones on the other side and to provide information as to who those loved ones will be. I help the dying person understand that the spirit world is preparing a celebration for his/her arrival home. Our discussion of this belief begins the process of releasing the attachment to this life that will occur.
When death is imminent and the body starts to break down, fear tries to take over the mind. We feel as if we have lost control of a world that is familiar. By communicating with the spirit world, I encourage the dying person to look beyond this world toward the new world of spirit or heaven. My guidance allows the dying person to understand his or her purpose and to discover how to conclude this journey on earth. We work with karma and find empowerment in the impending death. As this process unfolds, fear melts away.
Bedside Consultation
This session is needed when a family sees that their loved one is lingering and does not seem to be able to transition into spirit. This often happens when a person is actively dying or has been trapped in a debilitating disease such as Alzheimer’s for a long period of time. He or she is blocked and cannot leave the body. Unresolved issues from life can cause a resistance to entering into the light, causing the body to hang on. This is a very confusing time for the soul of the dying person. When I come to the bedside, I am able to look into the spirit world and communicate with the loved ones and the angels that are waiting for this soul on the other side. With this communication, I am able to see what is preventing the person from moving into spirit.
I communicate what I see to the family, and with this information they are able to help their loved one let go of their issue and move fully into this beautiful journey. Within hours the soul is released. What can be perceived as a difficult time is transformed. The family feels empowered by the love that surrounds the dying as he or she peacefully moves into the light.